As I observe my son in his present
youth, I often reflect upon my childhood, and the way I was brought up. I note
the dramatic differences between our upbringings. I grew up in Edmonton,
Alberta Canada and was one out of two children that attended my elementary
school, not only was that a notable difference as one revved the physical
differences between myself and my classmates but in the general population as
well. Quite noticeable I didn't look like anyone else except those that were in
my own household. It wasn't even that I thought in my young mind that anything
was wrong with it, it was just a plain fact. I also had a mixed household with
a younger siblings whom were both half white. It wasn't until I was 5 years old
that I really noticed the negative effect on the physically characteristics,
when one day when I was walking with my mom in the mall and a little girl
pointed and laughed at my hair making a comment on my ill Afro puffs. A year
later I started kindergarten, and was called the "N" word. In that
instance I developed a sense of self-consciousness about my appearance. As I
entered school, I made numerous amounts of friends, as I strived to be the best
at everything else that was within my control, fashion, sports, and a clique of
friends. Negatively, that also caused me to develop a need for people to like
me and be "cool", I got caught up with the wrong crowd in high
school, among people who liked to party hard. My last year of high school, my
family moved to the America, where the majority of my mom’s family lived. and I
was in complete culture shock, not only did I look like the majority of people
but where we moved to in Maryland there was a rarity of any other race in that
proximity besides African Americans and Hispanics. It was then that a new
difference was discovered in which I didn't act or sound like the other
students and was labeled as "acting white". However, by that time I
was surrounded with a large number of family members including ones that were
only a few years older than me. They became a major influential role models to
me, as many of them had similar upbringing. I was able to cope by leaning on
the support of my family and close friends, as I slowly came to the realization
of self-empowerment, and self-love.
Saturday, July 27, 2013
Racism and the Developing Child
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Hi Ashley, great post. I enjoyed your blog. Racism is hard for adults to talk about and if children have to deal with racism will be extremely hard to explain to a child.
ReplyDeleteHey Ashley, I to was teased although I am African- American my dad was in the service although their were other AA around us when we moved to Missouri we were teased because I sound white. Education is very important to my family so I can not imagine living the Third World. It has to be very hard for some.
ReplyDeleteHi Ashley, I am not sure how it feels to be made fun of in that same manner, However my child who speaks "white" as some people says has gone through the same. I am teaching her to be herself no matter what. I also explain why people do and say the things they do. She did try to change her speech to fit in, but that road has been crossed. It appears that more and more mixed children are in being born. She isn't mixed, we teach her to annunciate her words. Oh, and she is light skinned. I would like to know more about education and development in your parents native land.
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